HowToGetAlong

HowToGetAlong (人情世故指南) is a Chinese-language guide to the social skills school rarely teaches: how to cooperate, ask for help, say no, deal with money between friends, behave at dinners and handle conflict. It is written for university students and people in their first jobs.

What's inside

10 chapters and 77 scenarios, for example:

• Campus: classmates who keep asking for help, unclear group-project roles, being asked to sign in for someone.
• Asking for help: requesting a reference letter, following up, backing out of a promise.
• Internships and work: extra tasks, clashing deadlines, criticism, mistakes, office gossip.
• Money and friends: lending, late repayment, splitting bills, gift money over budget.
• Dinners, privacy and conflict: toasts, declining drinks, posting group photos, nosy questions.
• Long-term relationships and boundaries, etiquette, collaboration, family and partners, and job hunting through to leaving a job.

Each entry covers what to judge first, how to prepare, concrete steps, sample phrases, likely outcomes, the cost of the choice and exceptions. All entries are experience-based advice, not research findings, and the author asks readers to adapt them to their own situation.

How to read it

• Search and read online: search by keyword, scenario or entry number; works offline, no login.
• Continuous reading version, plus a free PDF, Markdown and a project ZIP.
• Practice and review exercises and an AI skill that answers using the guide.

Related and derivative projects

• Its structure is modelled on HowToLiveBetter, though the text and code are newly written.
• renqing.21212121.xyz: an unofficial mirror of the guide with a different reading theme, by GitHub user xiaobai5211314.
• 高性价比关系指南: a separate, evidence-graded relationship guide (274 tips) that happens to share the repository name.
• Third-party AI skills built on the guide are listed on skill marketplaces such as SkillHub.

Pricing and license

As of October 2026 the repository, website and downloads are a free public edition. The author plans a separate paid edition with more scenario branches and exercises. The text is all rights reserved: personal, non-commercial reading and sharing links are welcome, but republishing, adapting or commercial use needs the author's permission.